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Delicious Kindness: 5 Ways to Treat Yourself Right

by Elise Museles

delicously-kind-3To kick off our New Year together, I have one simple question for you: Are you deliciously kind to yourself?

I know, I know. I have already asked you this very same question at one time or another.

But, here’s what I know to be true: We make a ton of promises to be deliciously kind to ourselves and our bodies as we ring in the New Year.

Come the second week of January? Those very un-delicious & unkind voices slowly start to creep back in our minds.

“Ugh I can’t believe I just ate that bag of chips. I’m so disgusted with myself.”

“Look at these thighs. No skinny jeans for me until I drop at least 20.”

And so on. And so on.

Before you know it, your delicious kindness just morphed into a nasty battle of scrutiny.

So today, I want to remind you how to be deliciously kind to yourself. Commit these 5 ways to memory and make them your daily practice.

Don’t let numbers run the show. 

From carb counting to the digits on the scale, we place a lot of value on numbers when it comes to our body and our health.

Will it be a good mood or bad mood… depending on that morning weight? How many servings are you “permitted” so that you can fit into a very specific pant size? What about fat grams and calories and ounces of protein?

When you simply look for external clues to tell you how you should feel, you lose sight of how you really do feel. Numbers are tangibles, which have their role, but they shouldn’t take the place of the intangibles that can’t be measured — like inner wisdom, for example.

Stop counting and start feeling.

Go beyond the “all or nothing” approach.

You’re not doing yourself any favors when you wait for all the stars to align before you jump into action. And you‘re actually causing your body more harm than good when you beat yourself up for not eating perfectly all the time. When we set unrealistic standards and goals for ourselves and don’t hit them or even start them, even if they seem just out of reach, we lose momentum – fast.

Try not to let fear of not doing things “perfectly” hold you hostage any more. Break each challenge down into bite-sized goals and remember to celebrate the small victories along the way.

Embrace pleasure – on your plate and in your life.

Too often, people on the path to better health assume they’ll have to deprive and restrict themselves. But in reality, true nourishment really happens when you start to savor your food and create “eating experiences”.

Add a splash of color with deeply pigmented fruits & veggies, enjoy healthy fats, sit down and eat when you eat…and remember that deep, dark chocolate can be part of your everyday wellness routine.

When you bring pleasure, joy and plain old fun into your kitchen, it finds its way into your heart.

Take breaks.

When you go-go-go, it does your body more of a disservice than a big old slice of chocolate cake. (Hello, cortisol!)

By eating in a stressed state, we are excreting nutrients and releasing the stress hormone, cortisol, which impacts muscle building and fat burning.

Slowing down has amazing benefits for your overall health, including heightened awareness, a healthier body, and a revved up metabolism. You also create the space to tune into what you want to do, versus what you think you should do.

Continually remind yourself: I am enough.

You know this by now. But this is huge for almost everyone.

Next time you catch yourself having that same old conversation:

When I lose 5 pounds…” “When I finish this course…” “When I make my 10 mile mark…”

“…that’s when I’ll <be happy/start my life/love myself>.”

Ask yourself if you would withhold love and put all those conditions on your best friend, your spouse or your child? Probably not. You deserve to treat yourself with the same level of kindness & respect.

Start now. I dare you: Be deliciously kind to yourself. Because you’re worth it!

Delicious Kindness: How do you practice it? Share your insights & stories below.

5 Responses to Delicious Kindness: 5 Ways to Treat Yourself Right

  1. Lorna January 9, 2014 at 3:32 pm #

    Elise if we could all abide by these five guidelines every day of our lives we would all be much happier and healthier people. I love each and every one! Here’s to practicing.

    • Elise January 9, 2014 at 7:42 pm #

      Thanks, Lorna. It’s definitely a practice, not a perfect!

  2. Silvia January 9, 2014 at 3:38 pm #

    As you know Elise, I couldn’t agree with you more…and that comes from years of eating pretty much whatever I want and not gaining more than a few pounds. And it isn’t because I have a fast metabolism. It’s because I listen to my body (and mind) and stop eating when I’ve had enough (hate the feeling of being too full) and eat when I’m truly hungry. In fact I haven’t weighed myself in over a decade. I don’t even own a scale. I eat lighter when my jeans are too tight and I feel heavier than normal. I’m not saying this to brag or because I don’t have compassion for others for whom losing weight is far more difficult. My heart goes out to them. But I’ve come to know that weight gain or loss is as much what we put into our heads as it is our mouths. When we focus on calories…calories focus on us!

    • Elise January 9, 2014 at 7:45 pm #

      Silvia,
      As I have said before, you always offer such powerful stories filled with nuggets of wisdom. I completely agree with you that weight gain or loss is not just what we put in our mouths but is also affected by what we feed our mind. Thank you for sharing and contributing to this conversation.

  3. Rebecca April 29, 2014 at 8:05 pm #

    Beautiful reminders! 🙂

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